How to Find Yourself, Again
The importance of self love plays such a massive role in the pattern of your relationships & how they turn out.
If you think you love & value yourself but always end up with a repeated pattern in relationships then I'm sorry but you don't love yourself as much as you think you do. You're not learning from your past mistakes, you're choosing not to elevate. It's hard, I know. Setting boundaries sounds so easy to do but when you have a strong emotional attachment to someone, its so much harder to do so & you usually find yourself deep into the relationship before you realize you need to get yourself back out. It's about learning these boundaries & applying them at the beginning so you don't get yourself into a position later down the line where it's hard to get out of & that's fairly easy when no strong emotion is involved.
So, let's talk about what you need to do when you're deep into a relationship/situationship & you need to get yourself out
Firstly:
You need to understand that if someone doesn't want to be 'kept' there is absolutely nothing you can do to change or force that
You need to understand that if someone doesn't want to be 'kept' there is absolutely nothing you can do to change or force that
You need to understand that if someone doesn't want to be 'kept' there is absolutely nothing you can do to change or force that
Once this has sunk in, the rest of the points in this post will seem easy
Do not waste all your energy & efforts trying to make someone see how much you can bring to the table. If a man or women, can't see your worth, can't see your amazing intentions, can't appreciate your loyalty or support & simply doesn't want you around then yes it hurts, but it really is their loss.
If they wanna mess around then they will find others who will mess around too. We're talking about matching energies here & karma IS a thing!
Karma is the universe reciprocating someone's deeds, good or bad.
So if for example you give the world to someone & they completely reject it, then guaranteed in the near future they will get rejected by someone else. Only then will they know exactly how they made you feel, more than likely think about you & try to get back into contact.
Ever wondered why a someone comes back to you after 2/3months? In that time away from you they got their karma & now the silly sod wants another chance.
VALUE LADIES & GENTLEMEN SELF LOVEEEE
I live for it & its a sweeeeet feeling
Now there's nothing wrong with taking them back at this point. I mean, I'm not a fan of that option but we're here to support each other in all of our decisions, no judgement!
But you're going to have to come back a different person, WITH your boundaries & all your self love. NO repeated patterns because you'll get the same result every single time. By repeated patterns, I mean YOU & how you respond to things because that creates a butterfly effect on how they will treat you & what they think they can get away with. You're going to have to keep your guard up massively & that's draining, you're not being your true self.
So honestly, I don't recommend taking someone back after even a few weeks apart, never mind a few months.
Let's just rewind...
You need to understand that if someone doesn't want to be 'kept' there is absolutely nothing you can do to change or force that
Keep all of your friends
Take part in a hobby or activity which genuinely keeps your mind occupied, something you love!
Make time for your family
TRAVEL
EXCERCISE
Write down all your thoughts & emotions to help you deal with things more clearly
You might not feel like it, but start talking to new people, just as friends! Take it slow & easy. No intimate relationship & don't have anyone in your space. But talk, socialize & broaden your horizons
If someone takes an interest in you then now is the time to put your boundaries & standards into place. You'll soon see which kind of person either leaves or sticks around when they realize your worth & they can't manipulate you to suit their needs. Straight away you'll be dealing with a different type of person, people that are matching your energy!